3 Days

For the last three days me, my husband and my father were at a conference at the Double Tree Hotel listening to a speaker named Bill Duquette and his friends Paul Finck and Keith and Hugh. I don’t remember all of their last names (I can’t spell any better than Bill either really). It was nice being able to converse with multimillionaires but it is nothing new for me. I have met several others over the years. The first billionaire I met was Wright Thurston. He was a great guy to meet. He and his son were very nice folks and I enjoyed my time with them as well.
This weekend was cool because Bill, our speaker, was funny and energetic. He is a very good motivator and very real and honest about who he is. He was not afraid to make mistakes and tried to teach us to no longer be afraid as well. He wanted all of us to have his confidence throughout life so we can be happy and successful. He is naturally very funny but has no idea how he makes us laugh. I found that very amusing. It is all in the delivery not exactly what he said but how he said it that made us crack up when he spoke. The poor guy had a very bad pinched nerve the whole weekend and I offered to help him out with a massage so after the end of our first day of the conference we went back to his hotel room and I got him down to his underwear so I could work on his shoulder. I hope I did help him. I tried my best to relieve his pain. I most likely talked too much as well but I am still working on that bad habit.

On the second day Bill demonstrated how he talks to real people on the phone and how he words things to get the responses he gets out of people that are favorable to everyone involved. That is a skill that we will all be constantly practicing. On the third day he did more calling but before hand he got us all to role play with each other with a partner so we can learn to get over some of our fears of talking to people about money or anything else. I got to help Bill with a demonstration of negotiation for the class. He asked if anyone in the room was a good negotiator and I put my hand up. I started out easy on him but then he asked me to make it tougher. I made it very difficult for him but he handled it like a pro and used up the demonstration as a good example. A guy named Keith who works with Bill was holding the microphone for me during this exchange and someone asked me if he was whispering into my ear for what to say. The funny thing was, I was actually whispering to him “Bill should be careful what he asks for cause he just might get it. He wanted a hard example and a good negotiator so how am I doing?” Keith told me I was doing great and was very impressive. Big smiles all around. I was so amused.

The whole weekend he did not once ask us to trust him but instead told us that he loved and trusted us until we gave him a reason not to. I am very much the same way and it has been known to get me into much trouble but I am just that way anyways. He actually went on to give examples on how he is not very smart then said, “Follow this idiot!” Since he is obviously a very rich and successful man despite his mistakes and lack of brains. I thought that was cute of him to do that the way he did. His point was that with the right mindset and the right attitude then anyone can be successful. That statement is very correct.

During lunch on the third day the three of us met with Bill’s other multimillion dollar friend Paul Finck. I knew the whole point of the meeting was for Paul to try and get us to buy the education package they were selling. They were not one bit trying to say otherwise. I was way too hungry and my bi-polar got the best of me before we even sat down so I had to stuff my face somehow before I could be coherent. Even so it was trying to get my brain engaged in the right mindset for this meeting. Paul said he had never met anyone like my father and my husband. Well that I knew for sure before they even shook hands. Those two men are enigmas. He did push his sales techniques at me quite hard and most of my life I have been conditioned to blow up and push back twice as hard when pushed. Luckily, I have been working on fixing my automatic reactions but I still ended up quietly crying since I still do not like to be pushed or pressured into anything even if it is good for me. My family has learned different pushing techniques to get a good response from me but most of the world does not know how to react to my family. I am still learning to control my reactions though. I know Paul wasn’t the one who made me cry. It was me who did that so when we said our goodbyes I told him that I loved him and that it wasn’t him who upset me. I do like the guy very much and it was nice to meet with him anyway. I’m sure I made a fool of myself in front of him though but that is all a part of the failing forward fast they were preaching.

All in all the weekend was a success since we did get to meet many cool people and by the end the whole class pretty much knew who I am. I do hope to work with some of them in the future so we can all help each other get to where we want to be in our lives.